A sizable minority of gay men and lesbian women are married or once were--and many are parents. Conservative estimates exceed 1 million each for both gay fathers and lesbian mothers.105-108 Indeed, while 37% of heterosexual women have children under 18 in their homes, 31% of homosexual women also have children in their homes.106 At least 6 million children have gay/lesbian parents. The frequency of homosexual offspring among gay/lesbian parents is similar to that of heterosexual parents. No evidence has emerged to suggest that the quality of parenting is undermined by a homosexual orientation nor is the overall well-being of the offspring children compromised.105,106,109-112 Furthermore, there is no evidence that the sexual orientation of the parent--whether the child is biologically related or adopted--is automatically or preferentially conferred upon the child.113 Sexual orientation alone should not be used as the sole basis for psychiatric or legal decisions regarding parenting, child custody, adoption or planned parenting.114 It is not clear whether the Seventh-day Adventist church has taken an explicit position on gay/lesbian parenting. However, by implication, the current Adventist position is probably non-supportive to gay/lesbian Adventists raising children in their own homes as a family.
I am very proud of the many gay/lesbian Adventist parents that I know. These parents struggle to nurture their families in a world full of prejudice. It is not easy, particularly because their church is often a place where candor is least tolerated. But the children of gay/lesbian parents learn something invaluable: the Savior does not expect anyone to be dishonest--not with our selves, our church, or our family. And these same children also learn that Christian love is love--transcending sexual orientation.
105. JS Gottman. "Children of gay and lesbian parents," in FW Bozett, MB Sussman, editors, Homosexuality and Family Relations. New York: Harrington Park Press, 1990: 177-96, cited by RC Friedman, JI Downey, in the New England Journal of Medicine 1994; 14: 923-930.
107. FW Bozett. "Children of Gay Fathers" in FW Bozett, editor, Gay and Lesbian Parents. New York:
109. M Kirkpatrick, C Smith, R Roy. "Lesbian mothers and their children: a comparative study" in the American Journal of Orthopsychiatry 1981; 41: 545-51, cited by RC Friedman, JI Downey, in the New England Journal of Medicine 1994; 14: 923-930.
110. S Golombok, A Spencer, M Rutter. "Children in lesbian and single-parent households: psychosexual and psychiatric appraisal" in the Journal of Child Psychology and Psychiatry 1983; 24: 551-72, cited by RC Friedman, JI Downey, in the New England Journal of Medicine 1994; 14: 923-930.
111. R Green, JB Mandel, ME Horvedt, J Gray, L Smith. "Lesbian mothers and their children: a comparison with solo parent heterosexual mothers and their children" in the Archives of Sexual Behavior 1986; 14: 167-84, cited by RC Friedman, JI Downey, in the New England Journal of Medicine 1994; 14: 923-930.
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